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Relationships can be incredibly consuming both in terms of time and energy. They are an investment and sadly sometimes the investment doesn’t bear fruit. One of the reasons that leads to relationships ending is infidelity. Here are some signs that your partner could be cheating on you.
1. Secret phone calls
Unless your man works for the CIA or is a lawyer who is on the phone with a client or something of that nature, there is no reason for him to be constantly leaving the room to pick his phone calls. If he is also receiving messages late at night, there’s a good chance that someone else is keeping his attention.
2. Strict scheduling
If you can only see him on certain days and in certain places, he may be either juggling work or juggling other women.
If you can never surprise him at home and you have been together for a while and you still don’t have a key, there might be a problem there. If you do surprise him and he is jumpy and nervous and immediately gets on his phone, he may have had other plans with someone he doesn’t want you to know about and is trying to reschedule.
3. He is a flirt
There is nothing wrong with a man having female friends. In fact, it can be a good thing and may positively influence how he treats you as his girlfriend as he gets some advice from the ladies in his life. It however, is a problem if he has no boundaries with his female friends and there’s no difference between how he treats them and how he treats you. It’s even more dangerous if your man enjoys surrounding himself and flirting with beautiful women. Recipe for disaster there.
4. You don’t know his family or friends
If you have never met his family or friends, there may be a problem. This is especially true if you’ve been together for at least six months. You should at least know his friends by six months in. Be careful about this though, a man could introduce you to his friends and family and still be less than truthful. But at least if you’ve met his family and friends, you can rest assured he doesn’t have a wife he’s hiding somewhere.
5. His stories are inconsistent
You notice something is off and he can’t get his story straight. He claims he was there doing this but no it was for this or that. Basically, the man is a liar and a bad one at that. He’s covering up something and you may need to get to the bottom of it.
6. He pays little attention to your relationship
As relationships progress, there’s a danger of things becoming ‘stale.’ However, there’s a difference between boredom and complete disinterest. If he doesn’t remember your birthday or anniversary and can barely have a conversation with you, but seems excited when you’re leaving, he may be directing his attention and affection to someone else.
At the end of the day, relationships can be complicated but honesty should be at the heart of them. If you don’t believe your man is being honest, ask him about it and then decide if you’re willing to stay put or if you’d be better off with someone else. A relationship without trust is not going anywhere and there’s no need putting in effort in something that clearly the person you’re with doesn’t respect enough to be faithful to.