The setting for approaching a woman has got to be right. Choose a moment when she’s not held up in a group or having a conversation with someone. If you’re in a party or pub, be patient and wait for the opportune moment when maybe she leaves her friends to go refill her drink or go to the bathroom. But as you wait, do not stare at her or you will freak her out. If she catches you looking at her, just smile and continue doing your thing until she’s free and then you can finally go and talk to her.
Still on the question of setting, the location of your first meeting has to be taken into account. In this day of crime and murders, do not make the mistake of approaching a girl in a lonely park or dimly lit alleyway. This will serve as a sure way to freak her out, remind her of all the crime and investigation TV she has watched and too bad for you, she may be too scared of you to ever want to see you again.
Have your body language in check. This may even be more important than the words you’re going to say. Do not slouch or overly use gestures to emphasize your words or you’ll end up swinging your hands around more than you’ll be doing the talking. Try and hide all signs of nervousness. Shifting around, fidgeting and breaking into a sweat have no place in this conversation. A girl wants to see a brave confident man, not one who cannot control his nerves.
Make eye contact before you even talk to her. This serves to increase the chances of connection before anything else. It may also give you an indication of whether or not the girl in question is willing to communicate with you since you can also read that by how much eye contact she makes with you. She may be the most beautiful thing you have seen in your entire life but do not just sit there and gaze at her eyes otherwise you risk coming off as a weirdo and stalker. Just look enough to make the first connection and keep at it with occasional glances, not a full time stare.
Have something to say once you’ve approached her and you two have gotten talking. A lot of guys make the mistake of going to talk to a girl completely unprepared and therefore end up fumbling incoherently, leaving the girl wondering what they’re on about. It does not have to be a practiced speech or anything overly intelligent. Just introduce yourself and make small talk but make sure it makes sense for the environment you’ll be in at that time. For example, you do not want to bring up the question of romance and your interest in her at her best friend’s funeral.