Premature ejaculation can be defined as the uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after sexual penetration with minimal sexual stimulation. It mostly results in unsatisfactory sexual experience for both partners, which can increase anxiety that may contribute to the problem. In as much as most men would not like to admit, it is one of the most common forms of male sexual dysfunctions and has probably affected every man at some point in his life.
This condition does not have a clear cause but with sexual experience and age, men often learn to delay orgasm. It may occur with a new partner, in certain sexual situations or if it has been a long time since the last ejaculation. Psychological factors such as guilt, anxiety or depression can cause premature ejaculation. In some cases it may be related to a medical causes such as hormonal problems, injury or a side effect of certain medicines.
For most men this is a taboo topic, I mean who would want to be known as the one minute man. Even Missy Elliot wrote a whole song dissing the “one minute man”!! As such many are those who suffer in silence which most often than not leads to depression and low self-esteem from the inability to satisfy your woman. Take Thomas for example who had his first sexual encounter at twenty with his girlfriend Nidhi, being the first time he came under a minute. They both brushed it off saying it was the excitement of doing it for the first time. However this became the trend till Thomas decided to break up with Nidhi two years later. Nidhi was predictably upset and during a heated argument she retorted that “ At least I can now find a real man who will satisfy me!!”, when asked to elaborate she said, “my girlfriends have a good laugh every time I tell them you’re the true definition of a quickie. You come even before we get started, I stayed with you only because I felt sorry for you. Good luck finding a woman and keeping her.” Ouch that must have hurt.
After the break up, Thomas dated a few women and some of them ended up with sex. However every time he came too soon and once even before he could penetrate. Predictably none of the women called him ever again after the dismal performance. This led to depression, anger and embarrassment till he stopped dating altogether as he could not face the rejection and humiliation. This went on till he googled and figured out his problem to be premature ejaculation but he was too much of a man to go to a doctor. Better sense finally prevailed and he finally went to a doctor who with the help of counselling and medication was able to finally treat Thomas’s condition. After which he found a wonderful and understanding girlfriend and he was able to enjoy sex as well as their journey together.
Most are the times we suffer from lack of knowledge on matters sex, pregnancy, birth control, love & relationships. However there is an online magazine ‘Love Matters’ which covers all this and more with responsive editors willing to answer any and all your questions. So check it out because as they say knowledge is power.