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I’m one of those graphic thinkers. Growing up I always used pictures and images to think, describe events and cram for exams. I would have a 100% better chance of getting an answer correct if there was a diagram supporting the answer than I would of it was just a bunch of words. That’s probably why when I was in public high school I was an average student but when I went to private school where the classes were filled with flip charts and diagrams of digestive tracts, sporangiophores, stalactites and stalagmites I shot up to top 4.
And so when I watched The Secret over 3 years ago, the visualization aspect of that way of thinking had a huge impact on my life. For one, I always had stuff that I thought about most (especially what I didn’t want) happen to me and secondly, I believed in what they call infinite energy so for me, The Secret already existed in my mind but what the documentary did was actually give it a name and really affirm it.
It’s been over three years since I was introduced to The Secret and while I have seen the law of attraction work in my life, I still struggle in mastering how to apply it. Sometimes I get what I want and many times I don’t. I don’t know what the difference in me is when I manage to attract what I want and not attract what I want-but I am eager to discover.
Last year I set out to visit New York. I have always loved that city since I was a child watching ‘Annie’ literally 5 times a day (ask my brother-it was a torture session for him) ,’One Fine Day’ by George Clooney and Michelle Pfeiffer- however you spell her name, Sex & the City and so many, many films shot in New York- I’m a movie buff I can do this all day. As the law of attraction suggests, we become what we feel, and what we feel is determined by what we think and what we think is determined by virtue of the images we hold in our minds. Those images are a result of what we surround ourselves with and mostly what we see. So, if I was to see NYC in my office cubicle everyday then by the law of attraction I should attract that event into my life right? Every day at work bored to death by my job, I would lose myself in images of NYC spurred by the internet print outs I had stuck all around my cubicle. One day my cousin who lives in the US called to tell me she was graduating from college. She said in passing that I should think about going for her graduation. I thought that it was a great idea. I applied for a US visa and whilst everyone around me was telling me how hard it is to get this visa especially as a single girl of my age, contract employee, no ownership of property etc, I just did it thinking ‘Oh what the hell’. Long story short, I landed in an airport just outside NYC on Aug 10th 2011 at 10:30pm with the New York night skyline gleaming through my window seat (yap I got a window seat) just like I saw it in my pictures. Excuse me as I just give gratitude for that moment.
What I am trying to get at is that I believe in what Plato, Thomas Edison, Abraham Lincoln, W. Clement Stone and Jack Canfield (author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and America’s number one Inspirational coach) believe in-the law of attraction. I would urge those of you who are eager to get what they really want in life to explore this.
Just as I was getting introduced to The Secret I was on my way out of a bad relationship. Since there is no limit of what you can attract into your life I decided that it was about time I attracted a good man. Now, what the secret says is that you need to know what you really honestly want, believe that you can have it, believe that you deserve it and you will get it. It wasn’t until that point that I realized that I wasn’t too sure about what I wanted out of a relationship and so I said, I think on a list or something that all I wanted was a kind, good-looking , warm hearted man-see the man I was seeing at the time was nothing close. After many months of denial and back and forth, I was finally able to let go of that relationship and shortly after I met my kind good-looking warm hearted man. As much as that didn’t last forever as I hoped, it put me in a really good space- one where I was able to accept that I have the power to attract good things into my life and not just by coincidence. That was two years ago.
I know The Secret has worked by helping me get a Black Berry, digital camera, my job, a gym close to home and a car to drive but it hasn’t quite worked in trying to get me a good man and rid myself of Bad Boy Syndrome (yuck). So because I have been fired up and inspired for the last three weeks I am going to take up this new project and test it. Here’s what I am going to do:
- Write a list of what I want in a relationship and what I can give in a relationship (Again!!!!)
- Be the change I want to see
- Cut out pictures and images of what I think to be my perfect relationship: Flowers, picnics, big fat diamond, nice smelling skin, a beautiful smile, Malindi beach, the Caribbean, etc etc. Stick these up on a vision board, take a photograph of the vision board and stick up those pics everywhere…my car, mirror, cubicle.
- Release it into the universe
- Look at these images everyday during my ‘Inspiration Hour’ (everyday an hour before bed I read and listen to inspirational stuff)
- Move on with my life, believe it will manifest and be in a state of receiving it.
If it works for me I will push y’all who want what I want to do it too. I am your guinea pig. If you wanna join me, tell me! (But you have to have already been schooled on this law of attraction so we can do it together, discuss, and inspire one another).
To the law of attraction! Cheers.
Happy Valentine’s Day y’all.
Yeah I said it.
Peace & Love
Julia Love