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The friend zone; the one thing we may all agree sucks. You bring out your best moves but that one person really only sees you as a friend. Sucks doesn’t it?

Once you’ve been friend zoned, there’s very little you can do to reverse the process. What’s even worse is when you are skating that very thin line to cross over into the bro/sis zone. You know the one where you will never have any hope of even getting a kiss. I took some time to think about the things we (I) do to get friend zoned.

The one thing we all do that gets us friend zoned is ignoring the signs. You are trying your best to get them interested in you that you’re missing every hint they throw your way. Pay attention to their words and body languages. You’ll know the right time to move in if you do. Don’t be that guy missing all the signs that someone has to fake a boyfriend/girlfriend to turn you down.

Hesitating with your intentions could also get you friend zoned. So you’ve been on 10 dates and they still have no idea if you want a relationship or not. You’re heading straight to the friend zone. Don’t wait too long to let them know exactly what you want. Chances are there is someone else interested who is letting it be known from the get-go. If you delay, they will start seeing as a friend and moving from that point is an uphill task.

So you know he/she is already seeing someone but you don’t back down. Trying to come in between a relationship is a no go zone. Trying to get them to break up only makes you look inconsiderate and selfish. That’s not a quality you want in someone so they prefer keeping you in the friend zone. And at that point you are probably low on the friend list.

Being too available is a sure way to get friend zoned. Every time they call you are free to do what they ask. It’s the middle of the night and you can rush to bail them out. You play the hero role no matter what the task is. You might as well label yourself as the best friend. Have some time to yourself and say no once in a while. If you’re not constantly around they might just realize you are the perfect catch and not friend zone you.

Being needy is probably the biggest crime in my book that will get you friend zoned. At every moment you want some kind of help. You can’t do anything on your own and are clingy. This screams out friend zone material. No one wants someone who can’t be independent.

The friend zone is one box I don’t think anyone likes being placed in. Now you know some of the things that get you there. Have fun figuring out a way to stop doing them and you just might be elevated to boyfriend/girlfriend