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They say you make your own happiness. Unfortunately, majority of us do not see this and let your happiness be dictated by external factors. This becomes a problem when things are not going your way and you feel like the world is up against you. There are several things that we do to ourselves that make us fail in our pursuit of happiness. Here’s a few that if you stopped then you will start to see a big shift in your life.
1. Beating yourself down
We sometimes exert a lot of negative energy on ourselves which sometimes lead to mental health issues. Beating yourself down can be mental or even be physical. As a wise man once said, “We are our own worst enemies”.
2. Being afraid
Fear stops us from doing a lot in our lives. There are two types of fears that I would love to talk about here. The fear of failure and the fear of success. Both are sides of the same coin but have a distinct difference in impact. The fear of failure stops us from doing something in the first place. You are afraid you will fail and it is better to just not try. You will never reap anything if you do not take a risk.
Secondly, the fear of success. This strips us from ever finishing something. To use an example of many writers who fear that if they write something and it becomes a hit, they will never be able to replicate that. It is a fear shared by many creatives and entrepreneurs. It is also a fear that can come into play in our personal lives. For example, the fear that once you find love you will end up messing it up.
3. Judging yourself
It is sad that at times we look at ourselves through the eyes of those around us. Worse still is if you take what they think for Gospel truth. We end up judging ourselves with rules and laws that are not even ours. You see yourself as ugly because some people say that the beautiful ones are light skinned.There are many instances where we place the same prejudices placed upon others on ourselves and this stops us from being happy.
4. Doubting yourself
Doubt. There is a fine line between this and fear. But there are some who are not afraid to take risks but end up not doing anything because they doubt their abilities and skills.
5. Waiting on others
Last but not least is waiting on others. You will never be happy if you wait on other. This is because people are most often not reliable and the disappointment can make a big dent on you. Also as much as you love someone else you can’t base your happiness on them being happy. You might end up spending a lot of time in the same state waiting on them to come around and yet you could be on a different level.