If you’ve been single for a while and are trying to get back into the game you will be the faced with the big prospect of a first date. That is, if you putting yourself out there and not just venting your frustrations on social media and the blogosphere. You’ve probably written a poem or two, if you’re a poet like me, probably venting about how bad your previous relationship was and how it’s hard to get the right partner this days. Listen to some Drake songs and feeling all “middle finger” to Cupid and relationships. I digress.

Anyway, when faced with a first date there are so many things that we take for granted and probably dismiss the chance of having a second date.

Gaps in conversation. I was wondering whether to blame this on technology or something else that seems to be infecting peeps in my generation. With the onset of social media and other platforms such as sms and whatsapp it has become very difficult for us to have face to face conversations with other people. Of course, you can’t have your first date via skype (oh, if that were possible) thus you have to arrange for a public place in which you can meet. Most of the time when you meet someone for the first time there are gaps in the conversation, awkward moment, and you end up dismissing the person as not having stuff in common. Mind you, both of you are nervous to be meeting the other for the first time.

Something else we end up being judgmental about and dismiss the other party is with regards to what they are wearing or if they say something that you might consider “below” or sometimes “above” you. You are either intimidated or dismiss the other person which is really wrong.

So next time you are on a first date look past the aforementioned issues, which is just a tip of the iceberg, and leave space open to get to know the other person. You never know what it may lead to.